As women, we’ve been told a series of lies since childhood, including that we’re more desirable when we’re pretty and quiet, and that we need a manly hero to ultimately save us. But these lies are trapping us and holding us back from achieving our dreams.
That’s the premise of Rachel Hollis’s Amazon Best-seller book Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop believing the lies about who you are so you can become who you were meant to be. Inspiration, motivation, and a true life-coach attitude guide the reader through the ups, downs and pure trauma in Hollis’s life. It’s funny, relatable, and mostly awe-inspiring, and just a little bit annoying (more on that below).
I don’t usually go for these books because I find myself thinking I don’t want to just read about how lucky someone else was that they ended up being a huge success.
But that’s the whole point of Hollis’s intuitive narrative: she opens our eyes to the reality that this mentality, this way of victimizing ourselves as having “bad luck” and blaming everyone else’s success on “good luck,” is what’s holding us back day after day. We are in control of our own happiness, Hollis writes.
I never knew written words could feel like such a slap in the face, but that’s the best way to describe the feeling I got reading her book. I don’t mean this book abused me. I mean Hollis’s well-written, honest and 100 percent relatable message woke me up to the lies I have been telling myself every day for… I hate to think of how long, but at least a couple decades.
Here’s just a few of lies we tell ourselves:
You hate the thought of cancelling plans with a friend but cancel plans on yourself (exercising anyone?) all the time.
You judge other women for doing the same things you do.
You’ve accepted abusive love because you think you deserve it.
You accept “No” from people in authority because you’re secretly looking for permission to give up.
And you blame past trauma (abusive parent, death in the family) for not being able to live the life you dream of.
But Hollis doesn’t just stop at pointing out these toxic lies we lead ourselves to believe, she hints at how we can destroy them.
Here’s where you may disagree with the book. Hollis, being a devoutly spiritual Pentecostal Christian, attributes much of her success and happiness to God’s plan. I think even that is ultimately putting our happiness in someone else’s powerful hands, without taking direct control of our own futures. But that doesn’t undo the struggles she survived and the message she is ultimately trying to share: You are in control of your life and happiness.
If that’s piqued your interest, go ahead and get this Amazon bestseller for $12.99 on Kindle!
What did you think of my second book review? Have you ever experienced the self-hate that Hollis shares? Let me know below!
Thanks for reading~ stay influential XOXO